Guiding Principles
This program will guide you through the process of healing so you can Get Unstuck.
As we start to spend more time living for ourselves, by taking actions toward self-care and by addressing habits that don’t serve us well, the awakening process begins. We start to notice more about ourselves, our patterns, our triggers and the reasons why we have come to develop dependencies.
We start to become aware that our habits are coping mechanisms that serve to help us survive by avoiding pain and discomfort. In the beginning, we welcomed these dependencies because they re-introduced comfort into our lives and served us well, but now they work to our detriment.
This program is about going beyond noticing and awareness. The first step to creating change is to experience a life where we live for ourselves by prioritizing the needs we’ve become aware of, so that we can start to … but we can’t stop at this stage of the healing process, or else we stay stuck.
Noticing and becoming aware allows us to see the truth about the way we have been living and treating ourselves. Armed with this knowledge, we are able to make efforts to do things differently, but – while this is a step in the right direction – it isn’t enough to create lasting change. Eventually and inevitably, we fall back into our old patterns.
Nothing changes until we do the work. If we don’t address the core issues at the root of the problem, the habits persist. We cannot simply resist, or else the patterns persist.
We are here to guide you through the process of doing the work to create change. The work itself is challenging, both mentally and emotionally.
Because the work itself is both mentally and emotionally challenging, it is important that we show up for ourselves by continually considering and revisiting these guiding principles.
Fear is a part of the process. Own it.
Fear shows up in the body and expresses itself in many different ways. Through discomfort, anger, resistance, denial, avoidance etc. Fear has kept you safe by allowing you to remain in the comfort zone, but now we have to step out of the comfort zone and safely explore uncertainty together. Because that’s where the action happens.
Self-compassion and honesty are key.
Many of us have spent years beating ourselves up for our bad habits and lifestyle choices. It can be hard to accept that we’ve been living this way, but it’s important that we get honest, take ownership and be kind to ourselves. We did what we did because we are primal beings seeking to survive the only ways we know how. Things got out of hand, we lost control, and now we must take an honest inventory of what led us here and kindly forgive ourselves so we can let go of the past and create space for new things.
Be willing to be willing.
You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need to be willing to be willing to explore your options through learning to do something new. Doing the work requires willingness to try something new, because what we’re doing now clearly isn’t working.
Failure is inevitable and necessary. Own it.
Healing is not a linear process. We can only grow and move forward through making mistakes that we learn from. Failure is an important part of the learning process. Embrace your mistakes and learn from them.
We are all unique; on different journeys, in different places, with different backgrounds. Everyone’s progress will look different and each journey takes varying amounts of time. Don’t worry about how you think things should look or feel, instead stay true to your unique path by taking one step at a time, one day at a time.
Trust that you are worthy and more capable than you may realize.
Consciousness exists at a cellular level. You have intuition and many generations worth of knowledge within you. You were born with inherent value that can never be taken away from you and, regardless of the environment you were brought up in, you have the ability to become the competent adult you always needed in your life.
Make sense of the past, so you can let it go.
Shame bonds and the stories we tell ourselves build up the core of who we think we are. They shape how we show up in the world. By becoming aware of these feelings and stories we’ve been carrying around for too long, we can release them and create space for new things.
Surrender. Trust in the process.
Once you make the commitment to live for yourself and align with your path of purpose, trust that the opportunities and challenges that come your way have meaning. They serve as experiences that will teach you lessons or that will help you to develop the skills and knowledge you need to move forward along your path. Trust that what comes to you is meant for you.
You can't do this on your own.
We are not meant to bear the weight of the world on our shoulders alone. We need someone or something to hand things over to in times of need. Something outside of ourselves. A higher power, a community of like-minded people who ‘get it’, whatever it is, we need to reach out. Know that you are supported throughout this process.
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Who We Are
Dr. Randy Berlin Clinical Director
Dr. Randy Berlin is a clinical psychologist with over 50 years’ experience helping with addictions and trauma. He has been studying the Vedic/yogic path for over 50 years, has been sober for over 30 years and has been a teacher of Vedic knowledge for over 26 years under Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. You can learn more about him and his work experience through his website.
Jess Genevieve Brown Operations / Trauma-informed Coach
Jess is a trauma-informed recovery coach who is passionate about giving back everything she has learned throughout her own healing journey. She also has many years of experience working in a wide variety of roles at all levels and even built a successful remote business from the ground up on her own, with guidance from an entrepreneurial mentor. Throughout these experiences she has learned a great deal about how to create ethical, sustainable and non-hierarchical work/gathering spaces that people enjoy and take pride in being a part of.